Mommy Baby Styles Of Parenting

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Mommy & Baby:  Styles Of Parenting

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As a parent, you have the opportunity to set the tone in your home based on the style of parenting you choose. You can choose child-centered parenting or family-centered parenting�the differences will be discussed here.

 Child-centered Parenting
o Intensely pursue the child�s happiness, taking great strains to avoid discomfort or emotional stress for the child.
o The child receives what she wants when she wants it: no delay, no waiting.

These concepts might no...


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As a parent, you have the opportunity to set the tone in your home based on the style of parenting you choose. You can choose child-centered parenting or family-centered parenting�the differences will be discussed here.
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<br>&#61558; Child-centered Parenting
<br>o Intensely pursue the child�s happiness, taking great strains to avoid discomfort or emotional stress for the child.
<br>o The child receives what she wants when she wants it: no delay, no waiting.
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<br>These concepts might not sound too bad, but what happens when Mom is sick? Or when Mom & Dad want to leave the baby with a sitter? There is little-to-no freedom in this parenting plan�and the baby will not grow in to a child who understands delayed gratification or how the world works. Additionally, this sets a child up for a bad case of �me-ism��other people will not matter to her. Her goals and needs are paramount to everyone else�s goals and needs, and the ability to look outward and understand being part of a team will be compromised.
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<br>&#61558; Family-centered Parenting
<br>o Keeps the baby�s needs met, but within the appropriate context of the family unit.
<br>o The child enters in to a team-setting; she is not the center of the universe, but part of the family-team.
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<br>These concepts might not seem very different from the child-centered approach to parenting, but the results of the two methods are starkly different. Parents have the freedom to meet their child�s needs and look ahead to developing skills and abilities, as they aren�t catering to every fleeting whim or fancy a child might express. Sitters are okay for the family, as the parents will take time out to �date� and be intentional with each other. Because a baby raised in a family-centered plan understands that she is part of a team, she will learn �we-ism,� not �me-ism.� She will consider others as she grows and how her goals and needs can be met within the framework of a team�without compromising the others on the team.
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<br>You may know people on either side of these parenting styles who go overboard. That�s not what I�m advocating here; a balance must be achieved. Remember these things:
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<br>&#61656; Life doesn�t stop because you have a baby
<br>&#61656; Date your spouse
<br>&#61656; Continue those loving gestures you enjoyed before your baby came along
<br>&#61656; Invite some friends over for food and fellowship
<br>&#61656; At the end of each day, spend 15 minutes sitting with your spouse, discussing the day�s events