Build a Romance Bridge

Title: 
Build a Romance Bridge

Word Count:
435

Summary:
Ever run into a brick wall, so to speak, with your mate? Can�t seem to pass �Go� without collecting 200 fresh wounds? Well, it�s time to build a bridge and tear down that brick wall. Here are your tools:


Keywords:
dating tips, love, romance, relationships


Article Body:
Ever run into a brick wall, so to speak, with your mate? Can�t seem to pass �Go� without collecting 200 fresh wounds? Well, it�s time to build a bridge and tear down that brick wall. Here are your tools:

ATTITUDE � Get an attitude adjustment first. Lighten up and do a 180-degree about face. Read the Sunday comics, grab an old comic book, turn on the Comedy channel, watch funny videos or DVDs. Get in a better mood and pass it along to your mate. Invite your mate to tune in to comedy with you, too.

FRIENDSHIP � Go back to being friends for starters now that you�re in a good mood. Forget the love stuff, if you want. And just focus on being good friends; share compliments, do things for one another, go out and have fun together, enjoy one another�s company.

RELAX � Let your hair down. Trust and relax. Be yourself. Don�t let old wounds open or fester. Forget the garbage memories and just be in the here and now together.

TIME OUT � If possible, spend extra time together for awhile, like during your original courting days. Hire a sitter, order out, eat at fast food places, grab ice cream cones and go for walks in the park. Get to know each other all over again. That�s the key. Then you�ll remember why you fell for each other in the beginning and history will hopefully repeat itself.

COMMUNICATION � Take it slow and easy. Keep away from subjects that you don�t agree upon. And slowly re-learn to communicate with each other all over again. If necessary, and it�s not a crime or shame � get help. Seek a trusted friend or adviser, a church clergy member or certified professional counselor. No need to go it alone. Find your weak areas and how to over come them and plan for future communication difficulties.

GOALS � Gradually develop goals together so you�ll have a direction to head. Write them down in a notebook just for the two of you. And over time, develop them, revise them, cross them off your list. The idea is to HAVE goals together and work towards a common goal.

SCRAP BOOK � Create a memory album together. Add photos, clippings, menus and anything that reminds you of the �good times.� Then when tough times comes, you�ll have something to �hold on to� � your bridge to romance.

So don�t just sit back and sulk. Take short steps to improve your relationships and let life�s problems magically pass by while you hold on to your relationship.